I have a lot of issues weighing on my heart lately. My mind is constantly running and I feel so worn down. I could sit here and tell you that everything is wonderful and that I have the happiest little boy, but then I would be lying. We have good moments and bad moments. I can't even say that we have completely good days anymore. I see others post on their blogs about how happy their children are and I'll be honest, I'm jealous. There are things
Bryson does and I don't know why. Is it because he was
institutionalized and has attachment issues, is it because he is a toddler or is there an underlying problem. I don't know how to tell the difference.
First off,
Bryson has more energy then any child I have ever seen. He doesn't stop, ever. He honestly can't sit still for longer than 30 seconds, unless he is confined and even then he is trying to get out or move. I'm not exaggerating. Nothing grasps his attention for long either. If he is playing with a particular toy, that
might last for a minute before he is off to another toy. That cycle continues. He wants 100% of your undivided attention at all times. This makes cooking dinner, getting dressed or anything else very difficult. At home, he wants to be held all the time, preferably standing up. We hold him a lot, but it's impossible to hold him all the time. If we are anywhere but at home, he doesn't want to be in our arms at all. We can sit and play with him in our lap, but he gets in out of our lap
continuously. I HATE taking him to doctors appointments because he can't sit still and I am constantly chasing him. I usually start out by keeping him in his stroller for as long as possible though he will scream and try and get out the whole time. If he is sitting on the table in the doctors room's, he is trying to tear the paper, stand on the table or get into all the cabinets. Yesterday he had a doctors appointment and by the time we got home, I was wiped out. There came a point while at the doctor's where I was ready to hand him over to anyone that would have taken him from me.
He is cranky and cries a lot of the time. I know he is teething and is having some stomach issues, but at times it rarely feels like he is happy. He throws fits over anything and everything. He will throw himself on the floor and scream. I can't tell you how draining this can become. There are days I want to lock myself in a room and cry. I find myself doing everything to not lose my patience with him. Speaking of screaming, he does it often. Not because he wants something, he does it just to do it. These can be
ear piercing screams. He will also go up to other children, puts his hand on them and screams. Needless to say, this often scares the child's parent and then I get the
dirtiest look.
He doesn't seem to grasp what no means. Maybe children at this age do not understand the concept yet. If that is the case, please excuse my inexperience. With anything, we can tell him no over and over, but it doesn't faze him. For example, he enjoys playing with the vertical blinds on our sliding glass doors. He has already torn off 2 panels. At least once a day, we tell him not to play with them. Does it bother us that he is playing with them, no. Do we care if he rips anymore off? No because we plan on replacing them. That's not the point, we don't want him to think he can pull on
anyone's vertical blinds. He eventually has to understand that it is something he cannot do. We have recently started time-outs. I know he doesn't understand what we are doing, but he doesn't like having to sit that long in one spot. The whole minute and half, we are placing him back in his spot over and over.
He often takes out his frustration on me. Sometimes he smacks me with a toy, other times he flails his arms and scratches me. The newest thing is he will grab my arm and try to bit me. Some might suggest that we should limit our activities outside the home, but believe it or not, change of scenery usually helps his mood. He doesn't seem to want to sit at our house for long. Others might say it appears he has attachment issues, which might be the case. I know attachment is a long process and doesn't happen overnight. I can say that he is definitely a mommy's boy, he loves affection and he makes amazing eye contact.
With all that said, I love my son more than I thought it was ever possible to love someone. I wouldn't trade him or his baggage for anything in the world. There are just days that I feel so helpless and lost and feel that I am failing him as a mother. I am looking to others for any insight or advice that they might have to improve the situations we are dealing with. At this point, I am willing to try anything.