Friday, December 28, 2007
I've decided to put the blog on private
Thursday, December 27, 2007
Today, B turns 14 months old
I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas. Ours was very nice and relaxing. Every year we go to my parents house on Christmas morning to watch my younger siblings open their gifts. This year was bittersweet because it was the last year we planned to go to my parents. Next year, Christmas will be at our house with our little one and everyone will have to come visit us. It will be so much fun!
Sunday, December 23, 2007
Friday, December 21, 2007
Today I decided that although Bryson
Thursday, December 20, 2007
My inner color
Your Inner Color is Blue |
You in Love: Relationships are your top priority, and this includes love. You are most happy when you are serious with someone. Your Career: You need to help others in your job to feel satistifed. You would be a great nurse, psychologist, or counselor. |
Wednesday, December 12, 2007
No court date for December
Monday, December 10, 2007
I've been tagged
- Wrapping paper of gift bags? Christmas time is the only time I use wrapping paper. Even then I still use gift bags. They are just easier.
- Real tree or artificial? I grew up using artificial trees, so we have continued to use the same. They are just easier.
- When do you put up your tree? We usually put it up the weekend after Thanksgiving or the first weekend in December. This year we have opted out of putting any decorations up because we don't know where we will be at Christmas.
- When do you take the tree down? The weekend after Christmas.
- Favorite gift received as a child? A huge two story dollhouse that my parents built for me. It was very detailed with furniture and everything.
- Do you have a nativity scene? Shamefully, no.
- Hardest person to buy for? That would be my mom. She is always telling me there is nothing she needs, but yet, she is always out shopping.
- Easiest person to buy for? Shane! Although my husband is an adult, he gives his mother and I his Christmas list (and birthday list) months before.
- Worst Christmas gift you ever received? I can't think of any.
- Mail or email Christmas cards? Mail! I can't wait till the little one is home so we can include a family picture in the cards each year.
- Favorite Christmas movie? I can't think of one, but I normally like any of them.
- When do you start shopping for Christmas? Usually a few months before.
- Have you ever recycled a Christmas present? No. That's not to say I haven't considered it, but I have never re-gifted anything.
- Favorite things to eat at Christmas? Pumpkin pie.
- Clear lights or colored lights on the tree? We have both. I think.
- Favorite Christmas song? I don't have one.
- Travel at Christmas or stay home? On Christmas morning, we normally go to my parents, but that will change once B is home. We will stay home and everyone will have to come to us!
- Can you name all of Santa's reindeer? Can I google them?!?
- Angel on the tree top or a star? Right now we have a star because I can' t find the perfect angel.
- Open the presents on Christmas Eve or morning? Christmas Eve we exchange gifts with my extended family. Then on Christmas morning, we open gifts to each other and from Santa. Growing up, on Christmas Eve my parents allowed us each to pick a gift from under the tree to open early.
- Most annoying thing about this time of year? How packed the stores are. I have no patience for it.
- What is the "corniest" family tradition you do, or miss doing? I can't think of any corny ones.
- Ugliest Christmas decoration ever invented? ???
- Which looks the best, theme trees or homey trees? Both. I have no preference, though ours is a homey one.
- What does Christmas mean to you? It's my favorite holiday. I love to decorate, buy gifts, give gifts and spend time with family. I think Christmas will bring on a whole new meaning once B is home.
I now tag Christen and Amy (I know you are in Russia, but I figured this would give you something to do when your bored).
My shower
My very yummy cake with strawberries in the middle
My MIL & I
Thursday, December 6, 2007
How cute
Thanks Katie & Scott, Chris & Lisa!
Now all we need is our little one home so he can sit in his new chair. Come on court dates!
Tuesday, December 4, 2007
The Nursery
Monday, December 3, 2007
Letter from Bryson
You must care deeply for me to be reading this note. I can't wait to meet you, but there are some special things you should know about me. I will soon began to learn what it means to have a mommy and daddy and how to be part of a family. For this reason, please allow my parents to do all my caretaking, including holding, comforting, feeding me and laying me down to sleep. You are welcome to play with me and smile and talk to me. My mommy and daddy have been told by experts that this will help me learn as fast as I can how to be a happy and healthy part of my new family.
Hugs & Kisses,
Bryson
Sunday, December 2, 2007
It's over
Friday, November 30, 2007
Did a bomb go off?
Tuesday, November 27, 2007
Yard Sale
Does anyone have any advice for having a yard sale? Others have suggested selling drinks and possibly snacks. Has anyone does this? Was it worth it?
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
Happy Thanksgiving!
I hope everyone has a wonderful Thanksgiving!
Saturday, November 17, 2007
A few pictures
1st Trip continued
Thursday morning we were to meet in the lobby of the hotel and we headed to the airport. We landed back in Moscow around 9:30a. We originally had a 10a appointment for our 8 doctor medical, but we we met up with one of our coordinators, she said the clinic was closed that day. She was able to get us a 4p appointment at another clinic. By the time we dropped T & H off at the international airport, drove to the Marriott and checked in, it was already noon. We had lunch and laid down for about an hour, then it was off to the doctors. The only thing I can say about the 8 doctor medical: interesting. It took almost 3 hours and we didn't get back till around 8p. We had planned to sight see that day, but because of the later doctor appointment, we didn't get to.
We did get to see snow for the first time. I can't begin to tell you how cold it was in Novo. We have never really been out of the country, so this trip was a little bit of a culture shock. Russia is very different than the US and you have to just embrace it and go with the flo. Trust me though, that is not always easy to do.
We are not really sure how long it will be in between trips. She said she will do her best to try and get us in before Christmas, but we really don't know. We will keep praying and crossing our fingers. That would be the best Christmas gift ever. If I thought waiting for a referral was hard, waiting to see him again will be even harder.
We're back
T & H (the other couple), knocked on door that morning to see how our first visit went. I was explaining to them how I felt and they said that was normal. It made me feel a little better to hear that. We all decided to go get some breakfast. After breakfast, we went to the coffee shop that was across from our hotel to kill some time since they were not leaving till 12:30p and we were not leaving till 3p. I have a funny story about juice at this coffee shop. When we were in there on Monday morning, we ordered apple juice and the girl understood and brought us apple juice. When we were in here Tuesday, we asked for apple juice again (a different girl this time). I guess she didn't really understand us because she put green apples in a blender and made it into juice. Wow was it bitter. Needless to say, we never ordered apple juice here again. After breakfast, Shane and I went back to our room and talked more about Monday's visit. I agreed that I would go there with a positive and optimistic attitude. When we got to the orphanage, they put us in a different room which looked to be a play room and thankfully it was much cooler in this room. We visited with him for about 1 1/2 hours and the visit went much better today. I guess I just needed some sleep and to clear my head. By the end of the visit, we knew he was ours.
Friday, November 9, 2007
We are outta here
Thursday, November 8, 2007
The weather
Sun 11/11 (we will be in Moscow) - PM snow showers - high 29/low 28
Mon 11/12 - partly cloudy - high 17/low 7
Tues 11/12 - mostly cloudy - high 18/low 7
Wed 11/13 - snow shower - high 24/low 7
Thurs 11/15 - scattered snow showers - high 24/low 17
Fri 11/16 (we will be in Moscow) - rain/snow - high 32/low 27
Thursday, November 1, 2007
New travel dates
I hope everyone had a great Halloween!
Saturday, October 27, 2007
Today is a special day
Today is a special day. It's your first birthday. We are very sad that we did not get the opportunity to meet you before you turned one. We hope we get to see you VERY SOON. We often wonder how much you've changed (since your referral picture is at least 6 months old). You are a very lucky little boy because you are already loved so much. Not just by your mommy & daddy, but also by your grandparents, great grandparents, aunt, uncles, cousins. It is crazy to think that we have fallen completely in love with you just from a picture, but we have. We think of you every day and look at your picture a million times. We dream about all the things we are going to do with you and all the places we will take you. In our hearts, you are perfect and we can't wait for the moment we get to hold you in our arms. Take care little man. We will be there soon (hopefully). HAPPY 1ST BIRTHDAY BRYSON.
Love,
Daddy & Mommy
Wednesday, October 17, 2007
Bad news
3 days
Monday, October 15, 2007
5 days
Sunday, October 14, 2007
6 days
Sat 10/20- leave U.S.
Sun 10/21- arrive in Moscow, fly to Novosibirsk that afternoon
Mon 10/22 - Wed 10/24- visit with our little man
Thurs 10/25- fly back to Moscow, have doctor exam done, go sightseeing (hopefully)
Fri 10/26- Fly home
After talking with Amy, we discovered we are on the same flight from JFK to Moscow. It will be nice to be to talk with someone else that is in this process as well. We got some shopping done yesterday and will finish up the rest today. I haven't even begun to pack.
Saturday, October 13, 2007
7 days
Friday, October 12, 2007
8 days
Thursday, October 11, 2007
Our travel dates
Wednesday, October 10, 2007
His name
Bryson Alexander
Tuesday, October 9, 2007
We got the call
Friday, October 5, 2007
We are #2
"Novosibirsk is Russia's third largest city (after Moscow and Saint Petersburg) and the administrative center of Novosibirsk Oblast. It is also the largest city in Siberia and the administrative center of Siberian Federal District, in the southwest of which it is located.
Industries include machine manufacturing and metallurgy. It is the homes of one of Novosibirsk State University, a number of institutes and a scientific research center. Novosibirsk boasts opera and ballet companies, several theaters, museums, and art galleries. The city is widely considered to be the cultural center of Siberia.
The climate is sharply continental, with severely cold and snowy winters, and hot and dry summers. Temperatures in summer range from 20 to 25C (75F), in winter -18 to -20C, but can reach -40C (-40F) in winter and 35-40C (100F) in summer. The difference between the highest and the lowest temperature is 88C (158F). Most of the time the weather is sunny, with an average of 2880 hours of sunshine per year."
If we would not have lost our first referral, we would have already traveled on our first trip, so we hope to hear something in the next few weeks. It appears that things have slowed down in Russia and referrals are not coming at a fast pace, so I pray things start to pick up soon. There are many children waiting for their forever families.
Thursday, September 13, 2007
Another one?
Monday, September 10, 2007
A little tease...
Friday, August 31, 2007
A few updates
He now has some clothes in his closet and dresser. My order from Kohls came in (most of it did anyways). It will be easier when I know what size he wears, but in the meantime, I have bought for 12-24 months. Shane asked me how much clothes does a baby need. I guess he forgot who he was talking to and what my favorite thing to do is - SHOP! I will just buy stuff and sneak it in his closet and hope he doesn't notice.
I think we have almost decided on a first name. We are 90% sure we are going with this name. It has been a long road to come to this. Naturally, every name I liked he didn't and vice versus. We aren't sharing it...yet.
We registered for gifts, sorta. For some crazy reason, I took Shane and his friend with me and let's just say, I will have to go back and redo most of it. He thinks he needs to touch and try EVERYTHING out. Anyone elses husband like this?!?
There is no news on the referral front. We are patiently (or impatiently) waiting. Our agency said we should hopefully hear something in the next few weeks, so we will see.
Saturday, August 18, 2007
Thank you SBP
Thursday, August 16, 2007
I love to shop
And SBP, I got your card in the mail today. Thank you. It did bring a smile to my face. The card explains my life right now.
Friday, August 10, 2007
Bad news
Thursday, August 9, 2007
Boy is that a lot of paperwork
I was going through some pictures I had and came across this one. I forgot I had taken it. All the pages look the same because that is the apostille page stapled to each of our documents. Everyone of those lovely pages cost us $10 each. You are looking at a lot of money laid out on our pool table.
Wednesday, August 1, 2007
My trip to NY and I HATE DELTA
The Brooklyn Bridge
Rockefeller Center
The trip home on the otherhand was TERRIBLE. On Sunday, the weather around the country was bad. I showed up at 2:30p for my 3:45p flight. At that point they had cancelled 80% of the flights and delayed the rest. They originally said we would fly out at 9p. So I sat at my gate for a long time and only got up once to go to the bathroom. Well about 5:50p I decided to check the board to see if it said anything new and it said my flight was currently boarding at a different gate, so I ran over there. When I got there, there were 3 people in front of me that she let on, then she left for a minute. When she came back, I tried giving her my ticket and she said the plane weighed to much so they wouldn't let me on. I was so mad, I asked to speak to a manager. From the moment he came over, he was a complete asshole to me. He swears he called my name over and over and told me I must have not been paying attention. Trust me, I paid attention. Why on earth would I intentionally miss my flight. He walked away with no sorry or other suggestions. So I went back to the girl and asked if there were anymore flights to Tampa. She booked me on a flight at 8p that had a connection in Atlanta. We didn't end up getting out of NY till 9p. We landed in ATL about 10:50p and had to sit on the runway for 30 mins because they didn't have a gate ready. When I got off, I ran to the next gate and they told me (and others) I couldn't get on because I didn't get there quick enough and they filled the plane with standby's. That was the last flight out that night. Needless to say I was so upset. This meant I had to sleep in the airport by myself. They were lots of others who got stuck there over night though. They rebooked me for the only flight they had available on Monday, which was at 8:30p. This was insane. So I went back up and asked if they had anything flying into Orlando earlier than that and I got a 11:30a flight. I barely got any sleep that night. I got into Orlando at 1p, Shane picked me up, then we had to drive to the Tampa airport to get my luggage. I finally got home about 4p, went straight to bed and didn't wake up till Tuesday morning. Needless to say, I don't think I will ever fly Delta again. I have never met so many rude people. I plan on writing them a nasty letter.
I haven't heard anymore about the referral. I am trying to patiently wait and it's not easy.
Wednesday, July 25, 2007
I'm outta here
Friday, July 20, 2007
This weekend
There has been no word yet on the adoption front. Still don't have medical information. With going out of town this weekend, then I am going to New York next Thursday-Sunday, so I haven't had a ton of time to think about (okay I'm lying). I figured I would give my agency a call after I get back from NY next week.
The baby's bed set came in and I love it! It looks even better than it did in the picture. We also ordered a dresser and changing table last week. It should be delivered next week sometime. I have a few things I want hubby to finish up around the house before we start on the nursery. I can't wait!
I hope everyone has a great weekend.
Thursday, July 19, 2007
Guess what I got in the mail today
- 'who loves baby' album. It is a soft album that you can put pictures in it for the baby. I have been looking everywhere for one of these, so THANK YOU. We will put pictures of us in it and leave it at the orphanage so our little can look at it and remember us.
- Baby Einstein lullaby CD. I know he will enjoy listening to this.
- A toy that has 9 links to take off and put back on or link together
- A very sweet card
Thank you SBP. You made my day.
For family and friends who are wondering what the hell SBP means, it is Secret Blog Pal. A group of 12 of us bloggers each have a secret pal and over the course of 2 months, we will send them 1-2 packages and a couple encouraging cards.
Monday, July 16, 2007
I've been tagged
4 new things I did in the last 4 years:
- Got married in February 2003
- We bought a house in April 2004
- Decided to start TTC, went through infertility treatments & then finally decided to adopt
- Started working from home
4 new things I hope to do in the next 4 years:
- ADOPT OUR LITTLE ONE
- Travel to Ireland
- Decide about going back to school and for what
- Maybe adopt another baby (I know I'm getting ahead of myself, wishful thinking!)
Bloggerland
Saturday, July 14, 2007
We found bedding
Wednesday, July 11, 2007
Big News
If it all works out, we will travel in September and that is not far away. There is so much to do!
Our dossier is finished
Friday, July 6, 2007
Great article
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/17937816/
It's about moving from infertility treatments to adoption. She said it best "I'd forgotten the most important thing: I wanted to be a mother more than I wanted to give birth. At the end of this long road, there will be a child waiting for us - the child we are meant to have."
Thursday, June 21, 2007
Can't wait to shop
Friday, June 15, 2007
Almost done with the dossier
Sunday, June 3, 2007
Things are slowly coming along...
We have been looking at dressers and bed sets for the nursery lately. It's funny that we have waited for 3 years to be able to pick out and buy these things, but yet we can't seem to decide on any. We change our minds on an daily basis. It's such a hard decision.
Thursday, May 24, 2007
Been awhile
For anyone that might be interested, this Sunday night (5/27) Dateline will be running a segment called "From Russia with Love" at 7pm. It's about a family that adopted twins from Russia.
Saturday, May 5, 2007
Questions & Answers
Why did you choose to adopt internationally instead of domestically?
We did look into domestic, but it just didn't feel right in our hearts. There is a great deal of risk with domestic adoption. With foster to adopt, the social worker told us that Florida will give the birthparents every chance possible to get their kids back, even if it is not in the best interest of the child. Even if the parent(s) were in jail for 5 years, the child will sit in foster care till they get out. She said that a child could be in our home for 2-3 years before we might have the possibility of adopting them. That is heartache and a chance we didn't want to take. The only other option for domestic adoption is to go through a birthmother. You go through an adoption agency or adoption lawyer who finds a birthmother for you. You have to "sell yourself" to her along with many other families. You might do this by video, scrapbook, letter or meeting her. The expectant wait for a caucasian child is 1-2 years. We didn't like the idea of selling ourselves to her, then hope that she picks up out of the other 50 or so couples. In addition, the United States has moved towards open adoptions. This could mean just letters and pictures quarterly/annually or it could mean visits with her. We don't necessarily like the idea of this. The birthmother usually gets to decide how "open" the adoption is and what she wants. If we don't agree to this, she will go find another couple that will. It is also a pretty expensive process, around $25,000+/-. Included in that is birthmother expenses. Florida requires you to offer up to $5,000 for use of birthmother expenses (food, rent, utilities, clothes). In addition to that, the birthmother cannot sign the release form till 48 hours after giving birth. That is two days that she has to change her mind. If she changes her mind, we lose all the money we gave to her for expenses in addition to most of the agency/lawyer fees. She is not obligated to pay anything back to us, Florida considers it "gratuities." Some other states require you to pay more than $5,000 for birthmother expenses, so that might make the price more if we contract with a birthmother in another state. Out of the 4 situations we personally know of from friends or family, in all 4 cases, the birthmother changed her mind. We decided it was too much of a risk to take.
Why did you choose to adopt from Russia?
We wanted a caucasian child, which rules out most other countries. Countries like Australia, Ireland, Switzerland do not have many children available for adoption nor do they allow out of country adoptions. Russia is the most popular country to adopt from and they have thousands of children in the hundreds of orphanages in their country. Russia also has a very rich history that we look forward to sharing with the child. We want them to be proud of being Russian. We have considered giving them a Russian name (some of them are a little strange though). We have also thought about celebrating a Russian holiday with them every year (we haven't decided which one yet). We both agreed that we will celebrate "Gotcha Day." It is the term used to classify the day the Russian court approved you to adopt them. That way every year, we can celebrate the day we became a family. We also wanted a closed adoption and Russia does not believe in open adoptions like the US does. The rights of the parents of these children have already been removed. We will not know who their birthparents are and as a result, never have to worry about a birthparent popping up one day. This can be both a positive and a negative thing because the child will never be able to seek out their birthparents.
How much will the process cost?
We don't have any idea because there are many different factors involved. We probably won't know the total till after its all done. It will likely cost between $30,000-$35,000. We just look at it as if we are buying a car since that is the average price of a new car these days.
How does the process work?
As I said before, it is a very lengthy and involved process. Everyone in the world has to approve it. You start by having a homestudy done. This involves interviews, gathering of documents, looking around the home, background checks. We have to find an adoption agency that works in Russia and is well respected and send them an application. We did this and found out last week that they accepted it. In the meantime, we had to file form I-600A which is an application for advance processing of orphan petition with the U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services. They will require us to be fingerprinted. Once they receive our completed homestudy (which should be done in about a month), they will either approve us to go to Russia or deny us. The adoption agency is sending us a contract to sign with them and a dossier package. A dossier is a gathering of documents such as marriage/birth certificates, medical reports, house deed, pictures, police reports, homestudy and much more. All these documents have to be notarized, certified and appostilized. This will be very fun trying to get all that done! It is also time consuming, so I am anxiously waiting on the package so I can get started. Once our dossier is completed, it is translated to Russian and sent to them. The Russian data bank has to approve it. Once they do, they will match us with a child that is available. Then our adoption agency will let us know they have a referral and give us the available medical history and a photo (if available of that child). Then we either decide to travel to see that child or turn down the referral. If we decide to travel, they will give us travel dates which will be several weeks away. Russia requires two trips. The first is to travel to meet the child and "accept" the referral. Then we would come back home for 1-2 months while more paperwork is processed. Then the second trip is to go to court and bring the child home. The judge is the final person to approve the adoption and the most crucial.
Are the children healthy?
There are diseases and infections that are mostly known to Russia. Because of this, we have to find a doctor that specializes in international children and one that knows Russia's terminology. When we are sent the referral and given the medical history, we will give it to the doctor to review and let us know of anything that might be bad. Also, after we visit the child on the 1st trip, we should video them and have the doctor review this as well when we return. Children in orphanages are sometimes raised different than children who are not and we might have a few obstacles to tackle because of it.
What age and sex will the child be?
There are many children living in orphanages in Russia. It is a country that has great poverty and most people give up their children because they cannot afford them. The average monthly salary of a Russian is $20 a month. Children have to sit in the Russian data bank (a database for children in orphanages) for at least 6 months before they are considered an orphan and are available for adoption. They sit in this "bank" for that period to allow Russians the opportunity to adopt them. Most times it does not happen though. Russians are not very open to adoption. The men cannot accept raising another man's child. If a couple does decide to adopt, they go through great lengths to hide their adoption. They will usually fake a pregnancy and never tell the child they were adopted. The child will be at least 8 months or older by the time we travel for the first trip and will be about 1 or older when we bring them home. We requested either sex. We would prefer a girl, but there is usually a much longer wait (about 8-12 months longer) for a girl because there are mostly boys in the orphanage. I am not sure why that is but I have heard two different things. (1) Russians prefer to keep girls and give up their boys. (2) They feel that when they are elderly, their girls will most likely for them and their boys will not. We will take which ever they match with us first.
What is the timeline?
There is no concrete timeline because many different factors are involved (how long it takes the homestudy, INS and the Russian data bank to approve, how quickly paperwork is done and sent over). I can do everything on my end as quickly as possible, but the rest is out of my hands. If all goes well and quickly, it is very possible we could have our child home by Christmas (we can hope at least).
I have to watch what I say about Russia in my blogs and make sure that it is nothing that could "ruin" the reputation of their country. Apparently a couple said some bad things about Russia and some of their officials somehow read it and they banned that couple from ever adopting in their country. I hope this answers some questions. If you ever have free time, there are a few other blogs that I frequent (and learn a lot from) about others who have adopted from Russia. If nothing else, I like to check their blogs for pictures of their beautiful kids:
http://laurenandmarco.blogspot.com
http://www.thebierbaumsadventure.blogspot.com
http://hearttohome.blogspot.com
Wednesday, May 2, 2007
First homestudy visit
Friday, April 27, 2007
So...
We signed with a home study agency. We have our first visit Tuesday. That is soon, but we are anxious and nervous because she will be here for a few hours. We have some things to do around the house though to get ready. Everyone has told me not to make our house perfect because then they will not be able to see how a child could live here. We at least have to clean and move the rest of the stuff upstairs. She will look around the house, but we she mostly comes to talk to us. She will also be giving us a page of all the documents we need to get for the next visit. Sounds like I will have a lot to do, but that is okay because staying busy keeps me distracted.
Wednesday, April 18, 2007
A different path
Friday, April 13, 2007
Past few days
The whole adoption or foster/adoption industry is bullshit most of the time. They break us down (as if we weren't already). The costs for everything are ridiculous. How are average people supposed to afford it all. And most time they don't put the needs of the children first. If they did, there wouldn't be so many children out there in the system. I feel like no matter what path we go down, there are going to be roadblocks and bumps the whole way. Maybe we were sent down this path for a reason, but everyday I ask what that reason is. I often wonder if I have done something in my past to have deserved this, but I can't come up with anything that should result in this type of punishment.
I just wish others would realize what a blessing and miracle it is to be able to have a child. We know several friends and family who completely take their children for granted and only dote on them when it's convenient. Situations like this are starting to affect me more now then ever. They have experienced things we will never get the chance to do. We will never know what it's like to feel the baby kick, to see the baby move on the sonogram, to hear the heartbeat, the anticipation of finding out the sex, to hear that first scream when you give birth, to hold that baby for the very first time. And most importantly, we will never know what a child created by the both of us will look like. Who's nose, eyes, hair, personality, feet will he/she have?
MAPP Classes
Sat 4/14: 9a-4p
Mon 4/16: 6:30p-9:30p
Thurs 4/19: 6:30p-9:30p
Sat 4/21: 9a-4p
Mon 4/23: 6:30p-9:30p
Thurs 4/26: 6:30p-9:30p
It will be a busy few weeks. We will let you know how tomorrow goes.
P.S. We are finally having carpet laid Wednesday, but we still have so much to get done before then. I can't wait.
Wednesday, April 4, 2007
Stole...
Top 10 things that have not helped us in having a baby...
10. Sex
9. Reading books about how to have a baby
8. Non-doubling HCG numbers
7. Crying, bargaining and begging
6. Pillows under butt
5. Being asked "When are you going to have a baby?"
4. Doctors
3. BBT (basal thermometer) or OPK (ovulation prediction kit)
2. Holding other people's babies
1. JUST RELAXING
Monday, April 2, 2007
A few updates
2. We finally went to pick out carpet for the upstairs this past week and ordered it. Now we have to wait for it to come in before we can figure out a date to have it laid. I can't wait.
3. During my sister's spring break she stayed with us for half of it. I took her to Islands of Adventures and we had a great time. The weather wasn't so great, but it wasn't packed and the longest line we waited in was only 30 minutes.
Wednesday, March 14, 2007
Thanks
Friday, March 9, 2007
In the meantime...
Thursday, March 8, 2007
Our next step
We have found an agency to go through to get licensed and so far they have been really nice. We are only in the beginning stages and there is so much to do still. We have filled out our initial application packet and had our medical exams done. The next step is to take 26 hours of MAPP classes over the course of 2 weeks starting April 7th. For the first time in years, we are excited. I think it's because we finally are moving towards a goal and we are doing something instead of sitting in limbo. Though we are both very impatient and want this whole process done yesterday!
We are pretty particular in the type of child we want, so it may take awhile longer. We want a white child with no medical problems. We either want one child a year or younger or a sibling group of 2 with the oldest no older than 2. The sex of the child doesn't matter to us and we don't have to have a new baby. I know others disagree with us feeling that way, but we would actually prefer the child to be closer to 1. That is such a fun age. We are probably crazy to say we want two children at once. I don't even know how we will handle going from no children to 2 children. Shane seems to thing it won't be any harder to have 2 children instead of just 1. What does he know, he is an only child! But the way we look at it is that it has been such a roller coaster ride, that we are not sure if we want to go through this all again so why not get it done at once. And they would be biologically related which is a plus.
Our first post
Some of you know and some of you don't, but we are not able to have a child biologically. It has been a very long road and that was the outcome. Needless to say, it's not the outcome we were praying for. Please don't ask why we aren't able to, just trust me when I say we can't. It's a very personal situation that we don't want to share with the world. June of this year will have been 3 years since we started trying. It has been the most emotional, stressful time of our lives and I would never wish infertility on our worst enemies. It consumes your life and it takes a toll on yourself and your marriage. It's hard when everyone around you is having babies, most of which are unplanned. I'm not saying that they don't love their children, just sometimes it's unfair. It's hard to go to little kids birthday parties and I have completely banned going to baby showers. I know that might sound selfish, but that is the best way I know how to deal with it. I have asked god so many times what we did to deserve this. But there are no answers to why this is happening, it's just part of life. Lucky us! Some of you have asked why do we want children so bad. We have both always imagined being parents. We want to be able to give the same love and support that both of our parents have always given us. We can only hope to be as good of parents to our children as our parents were to us. If you can't tell by now, our mothers mean the world to us. Well, I am getting quite emotional as I am typing this, so I will post again tomorrow.